If you're like me, you are at that point in your life where a large percentage of your close lady friends are finding their special someones and diving into that big deep ocean of intoxicating instagram posts, constant flirt-texting, and the oh-so-romantic friday night plans. It can get frustrating when you're on this side of things, and it's difficult not to be selfish with the time and attention of the people you love. But when we allow ourselves to become angered and frustrated with these situations, we tend to point that frustration at the easiest person to dislike, and unluckily for them it tends to be the boo thangs of our besties. Obviously this isn't really fair and it doesn't benefit any of the involved relationships.
{Side note: if you feel that the relationship your bestie is diving into is unhealthy, being angry and snarky at her boo isn't going to help the situation… but that's not what we're getting into here today. Just sayin'.}
I've realized that I am really grateful for the men that have stepped in and ruined a lot of our plans. Our plans to be crazy cat ladies together, to stay in every friday night and watch netflix, to crochet an entire room full of kitten mittens… I am sad that our plans have changed but I am happy about what they're changing to. I am grateful to see a man pursuing you and adoring you in the way you deserve to be adored. I am grateful for our perspectives changing as we watch what strength and gentleness look like in a real man. I am grateful that our plans have changed, and I'm grateful for the men that have changed them.
So essentially what I am getting at is: don't be selfish, and check your perspective. Selfishness crumbles relationships and love(understanding) builds them.
Shalom y'all!
